Parents who say, “Do as I say, not as I do,” aren't effective. Children learn far more from watching what their parents do, rather than hearing what they say.

Although it can be hard to set time limits on your electronics use and use polite words even when you're angry, it's important to remember that your child is always watching. Modeling appropriate behaviors is an essential parenting skill.

Knowing when to say no and how to stick to your limits is a skill that takes practice. Over time, you'll know how much your child can handle and how to help him cope with disappointment when you won't let him do something he wants to do.

All kids are different and just because a child is a certain age doesn't necessarily mean he's ready for specific privileges. Sometimes, setting limits involves a little trial and error as parents discover how to help a child learn best.

Effective parents don’t just threaten consequences, they follow through with them. Consistency is a vital part of helping kids learn to manage their behavior better.

If a child only receives negative consequence for his behavior half the time, the misbehavior isn’t likely to stop. But, clear and consistent consequences will help a child learn.

Effective discipline requires that parents are able to recognize whether a battle is worth the fight. Sometimes behaviors just aren’t worth addressing if they are likely to lead to a power struggle.

For example, if a 6-year-old wants to wear her rain galoshes on a sunny day, allowing her to do so might make more sense than trying to convince her why her sneakers are a better choice. Focus on the bigger behavior problems if you really want to make a difference.

Parents who manage their stress effectively are better equipped to deal with behavior problems. Stressed out parents are more likely to yell or be inconsistent with discipline.

Stressed out parents are also more likely to use punishment rather than discipline. And it can lead to an unhealthy cycle, as kids are more likely to act worse when a parent is stressed out. Healthy stress management includes self-care and having support from friends and family.

Finding time to give kids daily positive attention can make a big difference in the child’s life. A few minutes of positive attention also makes other discipline strategies much more effective.

It's a skill, however, to create one-on-one time for a child. But, it can make a huge difference to a child's overall well-being.

When kids don’t understand what is expected of them, it can be impossible for them to meet a parent’s expectations. The most effective parents are able to explain their expectations.

An effective parent just doesn’t tell her ten-year-old to clean his room. Instead, she describes what a clean room looks like by saying, “Pick your clothes up off the floor, make your bed and vacuum the rug.”